Weaning Warning

I’ve considered leaving Facebook dozens of times over the years. Each time, the thought of saying farewell to friends with whom I’ve shared stories and laughs has kept me from closing that particular digital door. This time feels different. As of this moment, I still have not closed my account, but find myself taking a step by step approach. I checked and further tightened already tight security options. I’ve eliminated all apps on the site and deleted FB and apps from my phone, including Messenger. Plus, I deleted my FB page and links to the platform on this site. I…

Under the influence

This administration has left many of us in a state of perpetual hangover. With the glut of scandals and threats and lies that confront us on a daily basis, keeping up has become an unpaid internship with no end-date. Anyone who follows this somewhat lapsed series has probably figured out that my favorite theme is about facing life with as much positivity as possible. And, if you’re at all like me, maintaining perspective is daunting when assaults to our sense of decency are non-stop. I seem to be toughening up, however. I’m becoming more realistic, with an added touch of cynicism just to keep things…

Looking for the up-side

With so much happening, and at such a rapid-fire pace, it’s nearly impossible for the average person to keep up. Even members of the media are struggling with this endless torrent of weird, outrageous, and often insane behavior generated by this current administration. Every day is a new shock to the system. I do not exaggerate. Updates are out of date nearly as soon as they’re covered and posted, with readers scrambling to keep up with each new eruption. Gaslighting — a conscious attempt to confuse and distract — is a daily occurrence. “Look here, not there” is a ploy…

Carrying On

“How do we do it?” is a question on the minds of many, these days. I’ve heard from people who are feeling true despair over the outcome of the election. I get it. Despair is appropriate when we’re facing the possible dismantling of hard-won political and social progress. Despair, however, gets us nowhere. It is a downward spiral that generally takes an act of will to reverse. Isolation is the ally of despair. Don’t let it be. Find friends who support you. Be an ally to those whose struggle may be different from yours. Support a cause greater than yourself. Practice bravery. Be a friend….

Flat Rock, Rippled Pond

One of the joys of my childhood was having unlimited access to the Willamina River that bordered our small farm in Western Oregon. With nearly one-half mile that was mine to explore, I was never happier than when I escaped to its edge to indulge in minute explorations of this moist, boggy, ferny paradise. Robinson Crusoe fantasies dominated my play. By the age of eight, a part of me longed to escape the tensions that were a daily part of life in my family. The river bank is where I learned to skip rocks, catch crawdads, check the boggy areas for minnows, and observe the development…

The thousand-armed internet

The thousand-armed internet is throbbing in our collective consciousness. Whether that’s a good thing or bad depends on the day. One of the pitfalls of social media is that assumptions and reactions are way too easy to make. It can be especially challenging when daring to question a prevailing notion. The social media shrapnel for anyone daring to offer an alternative perspective or even ask an innocent question can be (literally) deadly. Before firing off a response to someone who posts a position that offends either through misinformation or pure nastiness, I recommend asking yourself these four questions: Am I reacting rather than responding? Am…